The spiritual benefits of regular sexual love making

2017.10.01

The Benefits of Regular Sexual Lovemaking

By

Dr James A Robertson

In response to my recent article, “Yah intends sexual lovemaking to be a high point of being human” I was met with a diverse response ranging from a couple of people who called me a pervert to someone who sent me an article titled “I had sex every day for 30 days - here's exactly what went down”.

This latter article corroborates my stand point which is that Yah created sexual love making to be enjoyed and that it is a CORE element of a successful relationship between a man and a woman.  The article and its associated links address a diversity of issues many of which could be helpful to men and women whose sexual relationships are no longer what they might be.  There are also a few elements that relate to sexual relationships, etc that are forbidden by Yah so you will need to exercise some discretion in reading the article and its associated links.

Key point is that Yah intends sexual love making to be RESTRICTED to a lifelong covenant relationship and NOT something that we engage in casually.  Sexual intercourse between men is a form of adultery and is forbidden.

With those caveats this is a useful article with a number of useful links which may be helpful to some readers.

If you are someone who thinks that sex is dirty or NOT Yah’s best or a necessary evil then you are free to hit delete now.  Fact is that sexual love making builds the one-flesh bond that draws man and woman closer together, it also builds the spiritual force we call “love” and builds soul ties and other spiritual forces that draw a man and woman closer together.

Accordingly, IF you are a man or woman in a committed sexual relationship before our Father in Heaven, then I commend this article for your prayerful consideration.

And if you somehow think the whole subject of sexual lovemaking is dirty or sub-standard I encourage you to think again.  The article “Sexual Reproduction Proves Creation” published a few weeks ago clearly evidences that the Almighty created sexual reproduction as a CORE element of being human and it is therefore clear that He intends it to be highly pleasurable and highly enjoyable.

I also received feedback from someone who had exposure to a couple who were in deep financial difficulty.  The woman had been lied to and come to believe that sex was dirty with the result that they were in continuous division and strife which, in spiritual terms, is guaranteed to result in the divided house falling.  See article “Believing Men in Lack” at http://end-time-issueministries.org/JudgmentTHISLife/BelievingMeninLack.aspx.html

Sexual love making is a CRITICAL element of being a man or woman in a committed relationship in this life and, accordingly, recognizing that some readers will be offended, I have decided to publish the article “I had sex every day for 30 days - here's exactly what went down” for your consideration.

James Robertson

I had sex every day for 30 days - here's exactly what went down

http://www.womenshealthsa.co.za/

By: Kirsty Carpenter

29 September 2017

Ready, steady, shag!

Three years ago, an American pastor stunned his congregation when he asked married couples to have sex for – wait for it – 30 days in a row. It was his way of taking on the nation’s 50% divorce rate.  http://www.womenshealthsa.co.za/sex-love/sex-life-disconnect/

In his book, The 30 Day Sex Challenge: A Journey To Intimacy, the pastor, Paul Wirth, states that to “have a stable relationship, you need to be connecting spiritually, emotionally and sexually.”

This sounded like a great challenge for my partner, M, and me. We’ve been together for over four and a half years. We used to rip each other’s clothes off daily, but it had tapered off.

For a while I was mildly depressed, we were having issues and our sex life had dived to once a month – maybe… Things finally levelled out at around once a week.

So would a hot and heavy month make a difference?

READ MORE: 16 Vibrators That Will Totally Change Your Sex Life

http://www.womenshealthsa.co.za/sex-love/vibrators-improve-sex-life/

Week 1: A Sex Comedy Of Errors

My partner and I had discussed this venture at length – he’d been a bit dubious at first, but after quite a bit of persuasion, he came around to the idea. But once we’d set a date to begin our experiment, he got nervous and tried to back out, resulting in fits of laughter every time we attempted intercourse.

We managed one night before I fell ill and couldn’t have sex. So ill, in fact, that I had an emergency appendectomy. Clearly, this was not meant to be.

I was put on bed rest for a week, but it was three weeks before the pain had subsided enough to even consider getting naked again.

Of course, three weeks without sex resulted in navy-blue balls and my guy was champing at the bit. Time to get busy again.

READ MORE: This Is EXACTLY What Men Think… During Sex

http://www.womenshealthsa.co.za/sex-love/sexual-thoughts-men-think/

Week 1, Attempt 2: Getting It Right

Now that I knew what M’s reaction would be, I opted not to tell him when we were starting the challenge again. We’d been at it for four days when he suddenly asked,“Hey, this isn’t like you – we’ve started the 30 days again, haven’t we?”

Considering he hasn’t had nookie four days in a row since our honeymoon period wore off, I’m surprised it took him so long to figure it out – testosterone was likely clouding his thoughts.

It was quite difficult for me to concentrate on anything besides the big scar on my stomach; in fact, I kept trying to cover it up with my hand, as it seemed so prominent from my vantage point.

Even though M had seen my scar dozens of times, my body image had taken a nosedive. If I wasn’t expected to complete the 30 days, this is the point at which I would have quit.

Having sex in the morning releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin, which makes couples feel loving and bonded all day.

Last year, a study in the Journal of Sex and Research found that negative evaluations of the body and self-consciousness during sex are associated with a tendency to avoid sex. But by avoiding sex, these negative views are perpetuated. Why?

If you aren’t having sex, there’s no opportunity for these views to be invalidated; for instance, by your guy telling you how beautiful you look. So it was a good thing I had to keep going, and it helped.

By week three, I barely noticed the scar. M said he’d never noticed it anyway – he was too busy focusing on other things.

READ MORE: 5 Gynaes Share The Sex Tips That Have Changed Their Patients’ Lives

http://www.womenshealthsa.co.za/sex-love/gynaes-sex-tips/

Week 2: Keeping Things Interesting

Seven days in and we were in a rut. Rudolph says this is common. “Expect to get bored if you plan 30 rounds in missionary with the lights off, just before you fall asleep,” she explains. “You need to do something fun and different every day.” So we tried alternative areas of the house, including the carpeted floor (make sure you have cushions!).

And I set the alarm 30 minutes earlier to give M a great wake-up, but pressed the snooze button a few too many times. Pity – Dr Debby Herbenick, author of Because It Feels Good, says: “Having sex in the morning releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin, which makes couples feel loving and bonded all day.”

READ MORE: Try This Trick If You Want To Have An Orgasm Tonight!

http://www.womenshealthsa.co.za/sex-love/orgasm-trick/

Week 3: Rediscovering Love

By this stage, we’d become really lazy. It got so bad that one night we actually played Rock, Paper, Scissors to see who would do the work. I lost.

“Couples generally lock into a few things that they know work and stop experimenting,” explains Ian Kerner, author of 52 Weeks of Amazing Sex. “But the brain is the biggest sex organ and anytime you try something new, you’re stimulating the brain’s natural desire for novelty.”

As much as we complained, once we started, we actually enjoyed it. A study in the Journal of Sex Medicine found that, while 15% of women only engaged in sexual activity if they felt sexual desire at the outset, 31% typically or always accessed desire once they were aroused. I was definitely part of the latter. I can’t say there were fireworks, but rather familiar, intimate lovemaking.

I don’t care about that. It’s not about the sex itself anymore; it’s about being close to you.

Towards the end of week three, we happened to go for dinner with friends. They were intrigued by our experiment, but couldn’t understand why we were so over it.

As much as we tried to explain how 30 days of sex can be exhausting (not to mention boring), the guys at the table didn’t get it. The women, of course, sympathised, rolling their eyes whenever their boyfriends asked if they could try it.

“On the bright side, at least you have three men jealous of you tonight,” I said to M as we left the restaurant, to which I received a heartwarming reply: “I don’t care about that. It’s not about the sex itself anymore; it’s about being close to you.”

Ironically, that turned me on.

READ MORE: These 5 Conversations Will Rekindle The Flame With Your Partner

http://www.womenshealthsa.co.za/sex-love/partner-conversations-rekindle-romance/

Week 4: The Final Countdown

After the laziness of week three, the realisation that our experiment was coming to an end caused us to shift into high gear. We obviously couldn’t carry on with Rock, Paper, Scissors – we needed something fun to get us through the week.

So we resolved to try something different every night. Ever heard of Battleship Bodies? It’s like the old board game Battleship, but instead of ships, you draw your body on a grid and mark off five of your erogenous zones. Your partner then guesses which grids you’ve chosen and, if he hits the spot, he’s allowed to touch that body part.

It’s hilarious and breaks the ice for things to come.

Sensual massages were on the list too. I’m lucky that M enjoys working the knots out of my back and neck, but as a means to an end, these massages were so much better!

Sometimes, all a relationship needs is a little mouth-to-mouth resuscitation.

And that’s not all we did. As I was climbing into my car to go to a friend’s house on the second last day, we realised we hadn’t had sex, so we did it right there, against the car. Seriously hot – and very unexpected.

The final night, M was so exhausted, he mistook the ties of my hoodie for my nipples, commenting, “Wow, they’re so hard tonight.”

The resulting laughter meant we could barely function, but at least we ended the challenge on a happy note.

READ MORE: 6 Serious Mistakes You’re Probably Making During Sex

http://www.womenshealthsa.co.za/sex-love/mistakes-during-sex/

The Upshot

As the final day drew to a close, we lay cuddling. “I’m really going to miss this,” said M, “but can we rather skip sex until we’re actually horny?” I agreed, thinking we’d be taking at least a week off from the bedroom antics.

Needless to say, two days later, we were ready to go again. Sometimes, all a relationship needs is a little mouth-to-mouth resuscitation.

But wait, there’s more: This woman tried masturbating to cure her hangover – and this is what happened… Plus: These subtle tricks will help you end a sex rut in 20 minutes or less!

http://www.womenshealthsa.co.za/sex-love/masturbating-hangover-cure/

http://www.womenshealthsa.co.za/sex-love/end-sex-rut-tricks/

May Yah, The Almighty Creator, bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you His peace.

May Yah judge me severely and correct me harshly and show me the level of my present deception and how to correct it with regard to everything that I write and publish.

Warm regards and blessings,

James Robertson

Emissary and Spokesman of Yah

06 October 2017

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