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I have recently been contacted by a number of women who are in abusive marriages asking what they should do
In each case, on inquiry, it turned out that the man who took their virginity was NOT the man they were married to and they were still in contact with the man who took their virginity
The simple answer in each case was that, notwithstanding whatever church or civil marriage rite they had been through with their present man {husband} they were still in covenant with the first man in the sight of Yah AND in the sight of the spirit world and therefore they were in adultery with the man they called “husband” with the result that spiritually these men were entitled to treat them roughly because they were legally regarded as whores in the spirit realm AND the Satanic and specifically demonic realm therefore had full rights to attack their unions and the women
The further, theoretically simple answer was that they should both return to the man who took their virginity
The problem with this answer is that our society does NOT understand it or agree with it and, in one case it would have meant the man having two women because he was living with another woman whose virginity he had ALSO taken and there was NO way that other woman was going to “share her husband”
In one case it turned out that the woman left her covenant man, the man to whom she gave her virginity, because he was NOT to her liking and did not measure up to her standards religiously and in other ways, the problem is, that in terms of covenant that is NOT acceptable!
Why do I say all this?
Very simply, Yah created women with a hymen, a thin membrane that partially covers the entrance to the vagina. In most instances it is necessary to rupture the hymen in order to have sexual intercourse with full penetration
When this happens blood is generally shed
There ARE exceptions, particularly with older women and with women who have engaged in strenuous sports or women who have inserted absorbent items in their vagina during menstruation
However, the fundamental principle is that Yah created women to bleed when they first have sexual intercourse with vaginal penetration
Once the hymen is ruptured it CANNOT heal and it is therefore only possible for a woman to give her virginity and shed blood once
The hymen is therefore a form of safety seal which evidences that a woman is a virgin
This is critical because the shedding of blood is a fundamental component of entering into covenant and so, we see, that Yah created women with the fundamental intent of women covenanting with their man and, since they can only shed blood once, of covenanting with ONLY one man
On the other hand males have NO corresponding seal
A man can take the virginity of any number of women and there is NO evidence that he has done this
Accordingly it is evident that Yah created men that they might covenant with more than one woman
The fact that our society, or certainly Eurocentric society, is unable to accept this and that social and demonic programming has produced generations of Christian and Western women who cannot conceive of or tolerate the possibility of sharing their man is a harsh reality which gives rise to a situation where it is extremely inadvisable for a man to try and enter into covenant with more than one woman UNLESS those women all voluntarily and willingly ask him to do this
Insofar as this article is NOT about the merits and fundamental reality that Yah created men to be in covenant with a number of women I will NOT discuss this further in this article – there are a number of articles on the website that discuss this topic in much more detail
My main point is that sexual intercourse with a virgin IS a covenant act and that, whether we like it or not, at the moment that blood is shed a covenant is entered into that is INTENDED to be unbreakable and for life
The only basis for severance of the covenant is extreme treachery by one of the parties which includes, but is NOT limited to adultery, that is the woman having sexual intercourse with another man
Note that consummation during menstrual flow defiles the covenant, that is NOT “safe sex” – Yah forbids intercourse during menstrual flow and for some time before and after
In practice based on humble supplication Yah MAY grant grace such that a severance of the covenant (divorce) MAY be granted under particular circumstances such that the woman may enter into covenant with another man through sexual intercourse in the form of ejaculation in the vagina by the man alone -- no shedding of blood but the semen contains all the genetic elements of blood as well as containing salt and so a form of blood covenant and a salt covenant are entered into – note that these elements are ALSO present in the covenant with a virgin
To better understand this discussion it is important to know that the reason that there is ALWAYS blood in the consummation of a covenant, whether sexually with a virgin or any other form of covenant, is that the terms of the covenant are fundamentally “if you break this covenant you will DIE” – see
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/247/2011-01-06-The-blood-of-any-covenant-means-death-to-those-who-break-it.aspx
Thus, in strict terms the ONLY basis for being released from a covenant is if one partner dies or commits a sin that leads to death at a level that is BEYOND repentance
In any situation less than this the covenant may NOT be set aside by the Court of Heaven
In addition to this, there are very specific terms that Yah prescribes for the covenant between a man and a woman through the shedding of the virgin’s blood that CAN be overridden ONLY by agreement BEFORE the blood is shed
These terms can be understood through the example set by Yahooshua and what is set out in Ephesians 5 and elsewhere:
MAN:
- lead your woman closer to Yah
- love her even if she beats you, flogs you and nails you to a stake
- treat her gently and tenderly
- make love to her tenderly and skilfully
- accept her the way she is when you covenant with her and do NOT try and change her
- comply with any specific terms you may have agreed BEFORE consummation (additional terms are NOT necessary) – the previous terms apply UNLESS you contract OUT BEFORE consummation
- most women today would want their man to agree to monogamy, the default terms do NOT include monogamy, they include polygyny, more than one woman with one man – it is important to be absolutely clear on this point BEFORE consummation – if he is having sex with other women when he consummates with you do NOT be surprised when he continues to do this subsequent AND you will have no basis to complain UNLESS you covenanted exclusive monogamy
- break this covenant and you will die
WOMAN:
- follow your man wherever he goes and promote him towards Yah
- love him and submit to him in EVERYTHING even if he requires you to be beaten, flogged and nailed to a stake
- support him and work with him in all his endeavours
- bear his children and raise them
- make love to him passionately and skilfully
- keep yourself to him only sexually
- accept him the way he is when you covenant with him and do NOT try and change him – if he was drunk when you consummated accept that he will be drunk again
- comply with any specific terms you may have agreed BEFORE consummation (additional terms are NOT necessary) – the previous terms apply UNLESS you contract OUT BEFORE consummation
- break this covenant and you will die
NOTICE that there is NO way out
No way to say, “BUT he …” or “BUT she …”
Once you have entered into covenant you are in it literally “until death do us part”, be it physical death or be it spiritual death
Over the years I have heard ALL sorts of exclamations about how unjust this is
Fact is, it is only unjust BECAUSE we have been LIED TO comprehensively and you just thought you were having a good time because you loved or lusted one another, IF you had known the truth it is likely that most men and women would NOT have taken and given virginity nearly so easily and mostly NOT to the person that they did
IF you understand covenant you will make ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN before you engage in sexual intercourse, you will evaluate the other party and establish exactly what they stand for and what they believe, you will agree any terms he consider important and she considers important, you will EXCLUDE any of the terms above you do NOT agree with
Understand that you accept each other with ALL your undisclosed weaknesses, addictions, vices, etc so pray and MAKE sure that you are certain this is Yah’s leading BEFORE you consummate
IF you want to reverse roles and have her lead you are at liberty to do that, provided you do it BEFORE you consummate
IF you want to serve Satan instead of Yah you are free to agree that BEFORE you consummate
BUT if she wants to serve Yah and he wants to serve Satan and you do NOT discuss it then it is his covenant right to expect submission and if he beats her and torments her and forces her into prostitution and to use drugs and to enter into Satanic rites he is ENTITLED to because those are the terms of the covenant – submit in EVERYTHING
A way out?
Because of the lies and the lack of knowledge Yah DOES grant grace in the event of humble and contrite supplication coupled to repentance but NOT always
It depends on what YOU knew before hand and your circumstances after consummation
In particular, since the vast majority of women are NOT living with the man who took their virginity there is a basic remedy
Woman
If you are a woman -- contact the man who took your virginity and ask him to take you under his covering and comply with the above terms as established at the time of consummation – preferably do this face to face, if not face to face then in writing and if not in writing, verbally BUT note that IF your attitude is wrong and you push him away your approach will count for nothing in the Court of Heaven
IF you do it meekly and gently and he turns you away and refuses to do right by you, you then have a basis to ask Yah for divorce and the sin will be on the head of the man
IF you cannot locate the man, make every reasonable attempt to contact him and, if after that you have still not been able to contact him (assisted by appropriate prayers and worldly measures like Facebook, etc) you then have a basis for divorce and to ask Yah for grace and mercy
If you are living with another man in marriage or covenant and he refuses to let you do this the sin is upon him – he must remember that he is in adultery and will burn in the Lake of Fire for at least some time UNLESS the situation is cleaned up so it is in his interests for you to do this (contact the first man) in the hope that the first man will decline
Once you have reached a point where Yah grants divorce you are then in a position to pray the appropriate prayers see
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/391/2012-06-13-Separation-of-a-Man-and-a-Woman-who-were-in-sexual-union-%7Bdivorce%7D.aspx
Once you have done that and cleaned up relative to ALL other sexual relationships you are then free to enter into covenant with your present man OR, provided you do NOT have sex with him again, leave him – separate discussion but since you have been in adultery you are NOT bound to him in the Court of Heaven but be aware that if you have made love regularly you will suffer massive trauma if you leave him for the wrong reasons
Man
If you are a man you face the reverse situation, you come to realize that you took the virginity of a woman and are responsible for her before Yah until death but she is NOT with you – contact her and offer to take her under your covering – you must do this with the RIGHT attitude
IF she turns you away you have a basis for divorce
IF you cannot locate her make every reasonable effort through prayers, Facebook, etc and, if you fail, you have a basis to ask for mercy and a divorce
Once you have the divorce from Yah apply the same prayers, etc set out in the document referenced above – cut one-flesh bonds, etc
IF you (man) are living with another woman and she refuses to allow you to do this, the sin is upon her – she needs to understand that UNLESS you clean up you will spend time in the Lake of Fire so, assuming she loves you, she should support you in this
IF your present woman was NOT a virgin when you took her you need her to go through the same process as outlined above
IF you took the virginity of a number of women you need to do this repeatedly
After cleaning up
Once you have prayed the prayers set out in the document referenced above you can enter into a covenant with your present man or woman either on the basis of the terms set out above or other terms you may agree
This requires cutting of ALL other one flesh bonds, soul ties and other spiritual connections, renouncing vows and promises including inner vows and physically cutting ties as appropriate BEFORE you enter into a new covenant – stop communicating with the past men or women UNLESS by PRIOR agreement with firm resolve on your part to keep ALL contact to strictly arm’s length as necessitated by particular situations
Note that love never dies but you can put it aside and NOT give it place – the love for each person is in its own compartment, you can pray for the compartment to be sealed and never open it and also pray for all desire for that person to be closed off
Note that if the woman is legally married to another man with a divorce pending, even if she has separated and all the relevant prayers have been prayed, the forces of darkness will STILL secure a judgment for adultery so it is necessary for the woman to be legally divorced BEFORE consummation
To enter into a new covenant you should take the bread and wine and pray over the covenant meal and recite the agreed terms – see other documents referenced below
Be aware that sexual intercourse with ejaculation by the male in the vagina of the female introduces a covenant, albeit weaker than that resulting from the virgin’s blood unless reinforced by taking the blood and wine of the covenant of Yahooshua in which case the covenant is of the same strength
IF you do NOT agree explicit terms the terms set out above will apply
Not about all the other stuff we hear in our world
Notice that covenant is a tough, no nonsense CONTRACT
It is possible for any man and any woman to be attracted and “fall in love”
It is possible for them to “fall out of love”
It is possible for them to have “good sex” even if they are from totally different backgrounds
BUT if they do NOT take account of the standard covenant terms, make them explicit in their search for a “life partner” and negotiate firmly BEFORE consummation they are likely to make a SERIOUS mistake
The reason most marriage fail is because they started out on the wrong foot with no knowledge of covenant and, from day one they have been breaking the default terms at some level and most of the time she was NOT a virgin so everything is messed up and defiled
There is ONLY one answer, clean up, do the necessary hard yards, pray the necessary prayers, have the TOUGH conversation and THEN consummate PROPERLY
Added complexity – the Isaiah 4:1 factor
Isaiah chapter four verse 1 suggests that in this age there will be seven times more women than men – in practice this applies to the body of true believers where there are today, indeed approximately seven women to every man
However, Isaiah’s solution, of seven women covenanting with one man is NOT possible in Western society, the women cannot and will not share and the men cannot cope – I know, I tried it at Father’s request and failed miserably and painfully until I asked Father to allow me to enter into a monogamous covenant
Reality therefore is that MOST believing women are better off single since there are simply NOT nearly sufficient genuine believing men to go round – see article referenced at the end
That said it is vital to understand that if you are a man you are created to be able to covenant with more than one woman so, unless you keep your eyes, mind and heart closely focused on your woman you WILL sooner or later find another woman who attracts you. At that point, you have a choice, if you have a monogamous covenant, keep it or break it and break your woman and burn
It is ALSO important to understand that ANY man and ANY woman can be attracted and, if you use worldly criteria it will ALWAYS be possible to find another who appears to be “better” than your current partner – again, once you understand covenant you should NOT allow such attractions or close working relationships to even begin to get out of hand
If you treat your partner badly they are much more likely to fall for another, so obey the covenant and treat them will
It is NOT about falling in love, it IS about KEEPING covenant
What about love?
What about love you ask?
Well, the reason it is called “making love” is because, IF a man and woman “make love” to one another, especially in a caring, loving manner, a spiritual FORCE that we know as love will come into existence. This spiritual force is designed to hold man and woman together and will NEVER die but it CAN be murdered through continual strife, rebellion, violence, treachery, adultery, etc
You do NOT enter into union BECAUSE you love, you love BECAUSE you are in union
So care for and cherish one another, make love regularly, considerately and skilfully and the risk of “falling in love” with someone else will be greatly reduced
The one-flesh bond the KEY component
Something else impacts the situation of man and woman
When a man or woman reaches a sexual climax or orgasm a portion of their spirit is ejected from the vagina in the woman and the penis in the man
In both cases the sexual organs are at the end of a spiritual “duct” that connects the sexual organs to the spiritual heart, the core, the centre of the man and the woman thus, when a man ejaculates in the vagina of a woman a portion of his spirit flows into her and up the duct in her spirit to attach to her heart, when she orgasms over his penis a portion of her spirit flows down over his penis and up the corresponding duct to attach to his spiritual heart – this is the “one-flesh bond” and this is the reason why adultery is an abomination in the site of Yah – it is spiritual chaos, everyone joined to everyone else
These spiritual ties do NOT, however, break, they are like infinitely elastic strands that join the man to the woman, the more frequently and the more passionately the man and woman make love the stronger this bond becomes such that they begin to know each other’s thoughts and to be able to communicate without words, even if they are separated by half the world
The one-flesh bond together with the love bond and the covenant terms are ALL designed to ENSURE that the union succeeds provided you BOTH adhere to the terms of the covenant
If they fight and argue the bond will get weaker
A weaker bond is formed in the event of male ejaculation in the mouth, vulva or anus of the woman and an even weaker bond is formed in the event of ejaculation elsewhere on the body. Likewise if the woman orgasms in contact with the man other than with his penis in her vagina, e.g. on his hand, a weaker bond is formed
When a man and woman who are already one masturbate apart from one another the spiritual “ejaculate” will flow down the existing tie
This SAME bond is formed in casual and adulterous sex, sex with prostitutes and EVEN masturbation in phone sex or looking intensely at pictures or fantasizing about someone
Bottom line?
ONLY have sex with your life partner!
Once the bond has been formed, specific prayers are required, see the reference above and the other articles listed at the end of this article. There is much more material on the website
The seven days of consummation
There is a spiritual window of seven days, seven being the number of completion and perfection, from the moment that the covenant is first consummated – shedding of blood with a virgin or male ejaculation in the vagina in the case of a truly divorced woman
During this window the couple should spend all their time together, make love as frequently as possible and build their relationship in a caring and loving manner – a union based on such a foundation will be very strong and much more likely to last for life
A one night stand or quickie has very little probability of success and, once the covenant has been consummated and the seven days have elapsed you will NEVER again have that same opportunity to build a strong foundation
Choosing a partner and marrying
Too late for most but perhaps NOT for our children
I have concluded that the old fashioned approach of parents choosing partners for their children is the way to go BUT NOT in the rough fashion that some practised
Establish that the proposed couple come from the same background, have the same values and religious beliefs and moral standards, agree to this form of introduction, agree the covenant terms based on what is set out above, have a party and consummate the union OR consummate the union and then a week later have a party
Whatever you do do NOT let the couple get even vaguely drunk before they consummate, the important thing is the consummation NOT the party
And do NOT keep them up late – as far as I am concerned a party BEFORE is OUT
If the man and woman are mature and previously married then a sober discussion of what they stand for, what they want and who they are and formal agreement of covenant terms is vital BEFORE consummation in the form of ejaculation by the man in the vagina of the woman – up to that point there is NO covenant although a betrothal bond WILL come into existence with male ejaculation in the mouth, vulva or anus and that is ALREADY creating a level of lock-in
Wedding ceremonies, because they deny virginity and put a pastor or priest or law officer in the office of a pagan priest are at some level pagan and cursed so be VERY careful who officiates and WHAT they say and what YOU say – vows AFTER consummation are FRAUDULENT and to be avoided UNLESS you recite EXACTLY what you previously agreed and you declare that this is what you are doing
African tribal weddings and those for many other people groups are totally pagan and should, if at all possible, be avoided totally – if not be very prescriptive about what is said and done – better to offend your relatives than to curse your union – BUT honour your father and mother so NOT easy – ask nicely to be released from a ceremony and JUST have a party
Overall, for a mature couple, better to hide away at home for a week and have a really solid consummation and then invite the family for a party later and, if you want the full legal picture arrange a form of wedding which is explicitly a blessing of what has already happened in order to fullfil the legal requirements for the woman to gain the man’s name.
Note that it IS Yah’s intention that the woman should take the man’s surname
My wife and I did this with a comprehensive covenant making based on the standard terms and entered into just between the two of us after clear discussion and agreement. We are extremely close and in love as Yah intended covenant union between man and woman to be
Conclusion
There is considerable complexity with regard to covenant union between men and women that needs to be understood in order to have a sustainable and successful life time covenant union
There is much more that I hope to write in time
Other References
Various articles on the website that have a bearing on this subject
The blood of any covenant means death to those who break it
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/247/2011-01-06-The-blood-of-any-covenant-means-death-to-those-who-break-it.aspx
The Spiritual Interaction between Man and Woman
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/388/2012-06-09-The-Spiritual-Interaction-between-Man-and-Woman-in-sexual-union-%7Bhusband-and-wife-in-marr.aspx
The role of man and the role of woman
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/402/2012-07-11-The-role-of-man-and-the-role-of-woman.aspx
Understanding Divorce
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/404/2012-07-13-Understanding-Divorce.aspx
Malachi and Yahooshua – Divorce – REALLY?
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/413/2012-08-05-Malachi-and-Yahooshua-Divorce-REALLY.aspx
Cleave is NOT adhere
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/415/2012-08-07-Cleave-is-NOT-adhere.aspx
Important Prayers
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/420/2012-10-01-Important-Prayers.aspx
Treachery is a Spiritual Force
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/tabid/93/smid/544/reftabid/124/Default.aspx?key=Treachery+is+a+Spiritual+Force
A contentious woman is as rottenness in the bones
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/363/2011-12-03-A-contentious-woman-is-as-rottenness-in-the-bones.aspx
The one flesh bond
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/298/2011-04-08-The-one-flesh-bond.aspx
The dilemma of the Isaiah 4:1 phenomenon
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/281/2011-03-01-The-dilemma-of-the-Isaiah-4-1-phenomenon.aspx
May Yah bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.
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