2011.04.11

Why there is so much divorce in the body of believers

by

James Robertson

In 1995 I became aware that there was a huge amount of divorce in the body of believers, about 70% of unions {marriages} were and are still ending in divorce.

I asked Father why and He started to answer me in diverse ways

Now, 16 years after I asked Him and having been divorced a number of times I think I am in a position to outline the factors that are giving rise to this massive, tragic and traumatic statistic that is decimating the body of believers, sending many into adultery and fornication and falling away.

The factors below summarize my current understanding of the factors that give rise to divorce in the body of believers overall, percentages indicate the relative contribution of each of these factors to the divorce statistic.

One of the major factors is the "Prince Charming" phenomenon, the lie that somewhere out there is the perfect man or woman, the life partner Yah created "just for me", etc

Fact is that Yah created us such that any man and any woman CAN MAKE IT WORK IF they obey Yah's guidelines in this regard which are hardly known at all today.

A relationship that works is the consequence of a daily choice to MAKE IT WORK and hard work to keep it working with commitment, tolerance, forbearance, all the attributes of love that are described in 1 Corinthians 13, etc.

The night I first asked Yah why there was so much divorce He took me first to Exodus 21:10 which says that if a man takes ANOTHER wife he shall not reduce the food, clothing or marital privileges of the first wife and from there He took me to 1 Timothy 3:2 and 12 which in most translations state that a bishop or deacon should be the husband of but one wife and pointed out to me that since it was necessary to restrict certain categories of people to one wife this meant by implication that all others COULD marry more than one woman.

Subsequently He showed me this was a translation error and the true sense of the verses was that a bishop or deacon should be the husband of his first wife, i.e. NOT divorced – but he could have more than one wife.

I choked on accepting plural marriage for quite a while and in the process read from Genesis to Revelation and found a huge number of verses that substantiated that it was acceptable and in fact PLEASING in Father's sight for more than one woman to join themselves to one man.  In fact I came to understand that this was His PERFECT PLAN! 

In the process He made me aware of the commandments regarding virginity in Deuteronomy 22 and I eventually came to understand that since Yah had created mankind in such a way that a male could take the virginity of many women but that a woman could only give her virginity to one man, Yah had purposed from the very beginning that more than one woman should covenant with one man.

In the years that followed Yah confirmed and deepened this understanding in diverse ways, sent me to others in various parts of the world, led me to purchase books and other material to help me to better understand the impact, etc.  He also showed me that monogamy was first legislated in the Christian Church by Justinian sometime around 600 AD and therefore had NEVER been Yah's intention.

Yah also showed me that from the start monogamy has ALWAYS been associated with high levels of divorce, prostitution, adultery and fornication and all the evils we see today so that in terms of fundamentals Satan's lie of the perfection of monogamy was at the root of the high level of divorce, just as it is at the root of a number of the other factors listed in this document.

In 1998 I wrote a book of over 200 pages which analysed marriage from every angle together with adultery and divorce and listed every single verse in the bible that had any bearing on the subject.  This and other related documents are available for free download on the Marriage page on the www.ETIMin.org website.

In 2000 while undertaking a series of eight three day fasts I recorded a total of about fifty (50) one and a half hour audio teachings on "Yah's plan for healing marriage in the new millennium".

I am still slowly understanding these teachings.  They are in the form of mp3 audio files to play on your computer and come on two CD's.  If you would like a copy they are available for a donation of R50 to cover postage and packing – email for bank account details and to order.

I learned that there was deep psychological programming rooted deep in early childhood through Snow White, Cinderella, Sleep Beauty, Barbie and Ken, and…, and…, and… that inculcates in the modern "Western" woman a terrible fear of her man taking another woman such that sharing is to all intents and purposes impossible.

In about 2003 I asked Father to teach me to love as He loved, He gave me a vision of a woman who was dirty and unwashed and told me that if I could love her I would understand how He loved because that was how He experienced most of the church.  A year later I entered into covenant with that woman, I did not bargain for her extreme laziness and her vile temper, her infirmities and insecurity but I learned to love despite all that until after five years I could not take the temper and laziness any longer and Yah took me out of the relationship.

Today I have a profound personal experience of how deeply Father loves, He allows me to feel His heart in certain situations and towards certain people, His love, His anger and His pain.  I also have a profound revelation of how little the church does His will and how defiled, lazy, bad tempered and disfigured she is and yet He STILL loves her AND she hurts Him grievously regularly.

As I was walking this road I experienced treachery, I experienced heartache, in time Father asked me to find seven wives as a prophetic act AND in order to help me gain the answers to my question about divorce.  I got to a point where I was in covenant at some level with seven women and I was torn apart by their inability to cope with sharing.

In this process I experienced intense love AND intense emotional trauma as women were wrenched out of my life.

In 2010 I cried out to Yah to release me from His request and to permit me to enter into monogamy because I could not take further pain.  He granted my request but I then discovered that there were other massive complexities and MORE pain in seeking monogamy.  I continue to walk that road discovering that mythology and unrealistic idealistic faerie (demon} tales have so corrupted modern woman that most set demands that are impossible for a man to meet.

I am continuing to learn.

The love of most has grown cold, a small affront and we file for divorce.

Love as set out in 1 Corinthians 13 is seldom encountered.  Seldom will a man love his woman such that he will lay down his life for her and love her despite her abuse, rebellion, insecurity, etc.  Man love your woman as Yahooshua {Jesus} loved the body of believers {church} and gave his life for her is NOT seen very often (Ephesians 5).

In the same way woman love your man even if he betrays you, beats you, torments you and tortures you as Yahooshua submitted to those who betrayed him, beat him and tormented him (1 Peter 3) is seldom encountered either.

The man as the head of the woman and the woman in submission in everything is seldom encountered and is regarded as old fashioned and flawed in this Jezebellic society.

Woman as helper meet (fit for, suited to) her man is seldom encountered, frequently the man is helper to his woman or she has her own career and we have a house husband because she is more powerful in the work environment than he is.

Every aspect of Yah's order in the relationship between man and woman has been corrupted and distorted by Satan and taken on board and legislated and enforced by the pagan Christian church.

Because of the lack of believing men it has become a light thing for a believing woman to marry outside the faith or to engage in casual sex with unbelieving men.

There is no fear of judgment, no respect for the sanctity of sex and virginity.

Virginity is given by most girls by the time they are sixteen and they and their parents think nothing of it.  Men only esteem virginity if it is to get a notch on their trophy stick and virtually no one expects his woman to be a virgin when he first has intercourse with her.

As a consequence just about every woman who is legally married in church or in court is not a virgin and very very few stand at the pagan alter in front of the priest or pastor officiating in the pagan ritual we call "marriage" with the man who took their virginity.

Yah tolerates our marriage ceremonies which are entirely pagan in origin and nature.  No man has the right to proclaim over an adulterous couple "what God has joined together let no man put asunder".  It is heresy of the worst kind and all parties involved will burn in the lake of fire if they do not repent and rectify matters before their death.

Sex is regarded as carnal and fleshly when in fact it is the most spiritual act available to mankind outside of worship of Father Yah.

The power of the one flesh bond is not understood in the body of believers (refer the article on this subject posted yesterday) and therefore they walk in weak one flesh bonds and divided houses that constantly struggle to survive financially.

On the other hand Satanists, witches and other servants of Satan engage in orgies, partner swapping and other perversions in order to build a massive one flesh community that extends all the way into the hearts of the vast majority of the adulterous church.

In a very real way adulterous one flesh bonds amongst the body of believers hot wire the temple of the set-apart {holy} Spirit of Yah directly to the inner sanctum of Satanism on earth.  No wonder the Christian church is so ineffective.

Compounding this Satan has hijacked sexual love making as an art and allows it to be taught in conjunction with massive wholesale advocacy of adultery and fornication as represented through pornography, immoral sex education material, etc.  So believers do not know even the most elementary skills in love making and so, for the most part, few have ever experienced real pleasure let alone the power of massive multiple and simultaneous orgasms, most do not even know these things are possible.  Unless they fall into pornography or adultery for a while.

And so the heresies and lies of Satan with regard to marriage, as enshrined in Christian doctrine, have emasculated men, dis-empowered the body of believers and confused most believers that they do not even understand the power of the set-apart Spirit that is available to them.

Note that Ephesians 5 correlates sexual love making and the one flesh bond within a righteous union with the infilling of the set-apart Spirit).

Finally marriages fail because people fail to put Yah first.

BUT!!!

I hear you cry

"You have put Father Yah at the end of the list and given this the second lowest weight, surely this is most important!!!"

Well

Yes it is …

And

NO it is not …

Yah created man and woman so that life time sexual covenant union would JUST WORK

Problem is that Satan has totally hijacked it and corrupted it because he understands that the more derelict and deficient marriage is in the body of believers the more derelict and deficient the body of believers will be in their relationship with Yah because marriage has been given to help us understand the relationship with Yah.

So

Satan and his cohorts are VERY happy with the current state of affairs.

Bottom line, you can do your BEST to put Yah first in your marriage but if you are believing and operating in the pagan lies of Christianity with regard to marriage touched on above you have a close to zero possibility of a successful outcome in your marriage today.

Conclusion

I hope this gives you insight into the massive turmoil that surrounds marriage today.

May Yah bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.